Dating, overall, doesn’t have to be as tricky or perplexing as it may seem. If you open your mind, and take into account how your current situation factors in, you can easily transition in the dating world, and maybe even come out of it alive. Dating in college is a whole different atmosphere, where you must consider sexuality, finances, and how relationships function. If you take into account the dos and don’ts, you can avoid the catastrophes that sometimes seem as though they’re inevitable.
1) Do take your roommates into consideration.
Whether you live in a dorm (my condolences) or an apartment (like mine, with paper thin walls), keep into account that you don’t live alone. No, your roommates are not entertained by your incessant lovemaking, nor are they looking forward to the prospect of having to hear your rendezvous at 3 am. Keep the noise level down and refrain from your activities at ungodly hours.
2) Do offer to split the check.
We are, for the most part, broke college students (emphasis on the BROKE). While it’s the «gentlemanly» thing to pay for your meal, don’t automatically assume. Always take your own money, and always offer to pay your portion. (I wouldn’t offer to pay for everything either, I’m still a LITTLE old fashioned.) Be understanding of the financial situation, and be genuinely appreciative if he does foot the bill.
3) Do get out of your comfort zone.
Don’t assume that because someone’s not your usual type that you won’t have anything in common! College has all kinds of different people, and part of the college experience is getting out there, trying new things. Take the chances you didn’t have the courage to in high school, and ask someone out instead of waiting around. Don’t be afraid to make the first move. If you want something, make it happen yourself.
1) Don’t make one person your world.
If you’re «one of those people,» the kind that just can’t be alone, you’re at a disadvantage. College is for opportunities, and you should go on a few dates with a few people. Of course you can commit to someone exclusively when the time is right, but don’t make that your first priority. Be smart, take advantage of your resources. College isn’t the time to hold back because you’d rather play it safe.
2) Don’t use your drunken judgment.
We’re ALL guilty of this at some point. After a few Coronas, even the kinda creepy guys my start looking cute. You’re on your own in college, no one is going to sit there and babysit. Whatever you do, DON’T TAKE SOMEONE HOME. Kissing someone when inebriated is funny, but waking up next to a stranger is a completely unnecessary reality check about your drinking habits. Don’t be a train wreck.
3) Don’t do the frat boys.
Seriously. I can’t generalize and apply this to every single frat boy in the country, but I can tell you that most of them live by the «douche rulebook.» (Disclaimer: the «academic» frats don’t count, though they’re not all that desirable.) The truth is, frat boys are dirty. Unless you want to be the 300 th notch on his bedpost and the girl doing the walk of shame in the morning with nothing but disappointment to show for it, stay far away from the Greek life.
The bottom line is, you can not only survive college, you can come out of it a more well rounded, capable person. No one is exempt from the occasional dating disaster, but it is in your power to avoid the disastrous blunders you can’t take back. Sex and dating in college are a little different from how it goes in the real world, but that doesn’t mean life has to unravel. If you arm yourself with a little knowledge, a little common sense, and some faith, who knows what may be waiting for you right around the corner?